A bad break-up is just like an open wound. If you are physically healthy and you take care of it, the wound will heal in a matter of days and you might be left with a very little scar. However, if you’re not healthy or you don’t take care of it, you risk a really bad infection, the healing process will take much longer and you’ll be left with an obvious scar.
It’s important to get off that couch, put down the gallon of ice cream and wipe your nose. When you get to this point after a breakup, it can be difficult to get out of the rut. However, it’s not impossible either. First off, get together with friends who care about you. If you can have fun at the same time, you can get over the pain a bit quicker. Try to remember to smile. It’s quite healthy to do. It makes you feel better at the same time catches the attention of your ex. If you can make them jealous, don’t you feel better?
In the same way, if you’re psychologically healthy (that is, you don’t have limiting beliefs like “You can find true love only once in a lifetime”) and you do a few simple things, you will get through a bad break up no matter how ugly it is in a matter of days. But, if you’re not psychologically healthy or you make a few critical mistakes right after the break-up, you’ll get to keep the emotional scars and the suffering for a very long time.
You shouldn’t contact your ex for a period of a month that way both of you can get past those hurt feelings. If you don’t, the chance of you saying something wrong is likely. You may make a huge mistake by calling your ex during the early morning hours when your drunk by alcohol or high on drugs. Thus it may ruin your chances of reconciliation. Give your ex and yourself the space you need to get back to a normal and healthy disposition. You may come to realize down the road that you aren’t meant to be together and the break up was for the best.
You’re running the risk of developing limiting beliefs and associating a lot of pain to being in a loving relationship. Furthermore, if you’re not focused on what you should be focusing, you can easily develop obsessive thoughts and questions that will hunt you for quite a while. Have you ever met a woman who’s still thinking things like “Why did he leave me?” or who’s still disturbed by the thought that a man she was in love with dumped her months after the relationship ended?
Most women don’t know what to do to recover after a bad break-up, even though they think they do. They assume that the solution is to lock themselves up in a fortress and never open up again in a relationship. Guess what that leads to.
The fact is that there are women in this world who have gone through bad break-ups and divorces and have completely recovered from them, got a lot smarter and now they have great relationships with real men. Just think about Angelina Jolie.
These women have mastered the art of letting go and moving on even stronger than before, with a sense of appreciation for this unique experience. They know the secrets that can turn you into a master of your own love life. So why end up stuck and heartbroken, when there is so much opportunity in the world?
The one thing you need to remember above all else is it is not the end of the world when you are in a breakup. Couples breaking up and reconcile happens all the time. When the pain fades, you’ll be happy about the situation. Your moving forward doesn’t mean you never cared for them. It just means that you aren’t going to let the pain stop you from living.